{"id":569,"date":"2016-04-16T14:21:03","date_gmt":"2016-04-16T14:21:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.poohnuggets.com\/?p=569"},"modified":"2016-04-16T14:21:45","modified_gmt":"2016-04-16T14:21:45","slug":"my-way-of-coping","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.relentlessmoms.com\/?p=569","title":{"rendered":"My Way of Coping…"},"content":{"rendered":"

I remember throughout our doctor appointments being asked, \u201cHow are you handling things?\u201d and \u201cAre you taking breaks\u201d? I remember one doctor saying, \u201cYou seem to be handling things well but when it gets to a point where you need help in how to handle Andrew\u2019s behavior there are people that can help you better deal.\u201d I remember these clear as day and I remember thinking. \u201cThere will be time for me.. Right now it\u2019s about them.\u201d \u201cI was always just fine. Let\u2019s worry about them.\u201d I coped in other ways. While I tried to cope in other ways I will be the first to admit there were times I broke.. Because I am human. I prayed often and tried to channel my energy into other things. When I didn\u2019t want to break and when I needed a break from my own head I would start a project. I would refurbish something or fix something around the house. My late step-dad taught me how to use a power drill and anything I could fix myself, I did. I learned to fix our garage through utube videos. I think there was a sense of empowerment I felt I gained from this. Fixing and bringing new life to things around me gave me some control in a world I felt I had none. When I was able to learn something new or fix something that I didn\u2019t think could be saved it reminded me I had to press on. It was a reminder to not give up and that I could bring new life to our household as I brought new life to things in it.\u00a0\u00a0 I couldn\u2019t cure the eczema and allergies around me but I could channel my frustration in something positive rather than my kids seeing me break from the disappointment that I couldn\u2019t\u2019 help them. Doing \u201cprojects\u201d was how I handled the stress. When I would paint or spray paint or fix something my thoughts melted away and I could shut my thinking off for a minute and I needed that sometimes. I didn\u2019t let myself leave my kiddos often so it was a way for me to escape without being away and it was good for me.<\/p>\n

The activities with my kids that we did were a part of this. Cleveland winter days can be long. I do what I can to keep my kids active and on the go. You can usually find us in the winter at the Rainforest, Aquarium or Chik-Fil-A Play land but some days you can\u2019t get out.\u00a0\u00a0 When I was home with the kiddos I needed to keep my head out of the searching and writing and focused on them. I used Pinterest to try fun activities with them. We play with snow, used sensory table and painted often. I wanted to engulf my children in fun memories so that when they look back on their childhood they don\u2019t remember all the doctor\u2019s appointments or me stressed out. I just want them to remember the fun. That\u2019s very important to me. I can\u2019t tell you how many times Adalyn\u2019s teachers tell me, \u201cAdy tells us that Andrew screams and poops a lot.\u201d Yeah, I know that all too well. But, at least she loves him and they play well together is all I can think and that we survived.<\/p>\n<\/body>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"